Sir Kolfinna Kottr, KSCA, OP

Sven has asked that I post that Kolfinna Kottr, Kitty Sexton, has been taken by the Valkyries today at 4:55.  She died as a true warrior with friends at her side and a weapon in hand.

Thank you ALL for your continuous support through this extremely trying time.

Thus ends the final court of Kolfinna Kottr.

Long live Kolfinna!



  1. Gunther MacBrewer
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 12:07 am | Permalink

    My heart is heavy for you, dear Squire brother, and for your families and friends. In the S.C.A., we are like a family. Some members are close and others distant relatives…some simply exist while others truly exemplify the best the S.C.A. has to offer. Tonight, we have lost and Valhalla has gained one of the very best.


    Gunther (52)

  2. Ryan
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 12:33 am | Permalink

    We see these things happen in our lives. This hurts deeper than most. I offer the parting glass:

    …Oh, all the money e’er I had, I spent it in good company. And
    all the harm that ever I’ve done, alas it was to none but me.
    And all I’ve done for want of wit to mem’ry now I can’t recall; So
    fill to me the parting glass, Good night and joy be with you all.

    If I had money enough to spend, and leisure time to sit awhile. There
    is a fair maid in this town, that sorely has my heart beguiled. Her
    rosy cheeks and ruby lips, I own, she has my heart in thrall; Then
    fill to me the parting glass, Good night and joy be with you all.

    Oh, all the comrades e’er I had, they’re sorry for my going away. And
    all the sweethearts e’er I had, they’d wished me one more day to stay.
    But since it falls unto my lot, that I should rise and you should not, I
    gently rise and softly call, Goodnight and joy be with you all.

    -Sir Ryan Greenoak

  3. Katheryn Hebenstreitz
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 12:55 am | Permalink

    My thoughts go to Kolfinna and her family and friends. She was a remarkable person and I wish I could have known her better.
    She gave me some unfrogetable moments at Pennsic and I will always treasure them.

    /Meisterinne Katheryn
    Kingdom of Drachenwald

  4. Giuliana
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 1:02 am | Permalink

    Even though I didn’t know you very well, I feel that my world is very much diminished with your passing, Kolfinna. I wished I had made more of an effort to get to know you.

    I know many who will miss you very much.

    Long Live Kolfinna!

  5. Aran Darkhelm
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 1:34 am | Permalink

    Valhalla is richer by one mighty warrior. Ride with the Valkyries Kolfinna. As you were a shining example of honor and chivalry to us here on Midgard, so will you inspire those in Valhalla.I will always treasure my memories of you. Aran Darkhelm

  6. Posted October 2, 2009 at 5:18 am | Permalink

    I never met Kolfinna, except as an inspiration and role model. What a gift you had, to know her! Surely there is a new constellation to be seen tonight that we can show our little girls.

  7. Rowanna
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 6:43 am | Permalink

    The world got darker today. You will be missed by many.

  8. Hrafn & Elizabeta - King & Queen of Ansteorra
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 6:50 am | Permalink

    We send the love of Our Kingdom who is mourning with you. Kolfinna will long live on in the hearts and minds of everyone who knew her. Her Grace was truly that… Grace.

  9. Catherine and Richard
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 6:50 am | Permalink

    Long live Kolfinna a true inspiration, role model and an all around wonderful, lovely person.

    Sven and family our hearts and prayers are with you.

  10. Arianna Nunneschild
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 7:08 am | Permalink

    My heart goes out to Sven and the rest of Kolfinna’s family. Kitty was a great lady…a very great lady, and a true source of inspiration. I admired her courage, her vivacity, and her spontaneity. I will miss her bright smile, her warmth, and her determined spirit, through which she gave so much of herself to those around her.

  11. John Bor Ox
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 7:45 am | Permalink

    As I write from the far East, my heart is heavy with the loss of Queen for Queen of Caid she was and Queen she shall always be.

    Long Live Duchess Kolfinna


    Cherish your memories of the past
    Hold them close hold them tight

    As you make your memories of the future
    Build them well build them strong

    For in the end we are nothing but the memories we have
    And the memories others hold of us.

    John Bor Ox (Aug 2002)

    She built well.

    John Bor Ox
    East Kingdom
    Born of Califia, Caid

  12. Posted October 2, 2009 at 7:54 am | Permalink

    For Duchess Syr Kolfinna Kottr OP

    “As she walks…”

    I cannot pace the dragon, Nor match an eagle’s flight
    Nor move the stars to sing again– tho I wish they might

    I can beg the moon to rise and smile in the land
    Yet I can only wonder how to turn away the sand

    A thousand hearts felt time begin the day she brought them near
    Time has stopped for all of us without her smile here

    Three vigils graced this lady sweet, two she sat in trust
    Somehow our third failed to do as we prayed it must

    Dark shadows swept she from a land in need of morning bright
    Dark shadows could not stand before the joyous smiling knight

    Twice inspired well her lord to place Crescents on her brow
    Countless times will she inspire countless good deeds now.

    Clouds embrace my castle halls on this turning day
    Odin cries with joy and pride for she who comes his way

    Rain that falls outside my walls is not a thing of sorrow
    That she walked with us for days makes better our tomorrows.


    something by faheud

    @2009 George l reed

  13. Posted October 2, 2009 at 8:12 am | Permalink

    Kitty, you will be missed. Your hammer with your gnomish engineered goggles will forever adorn our memories. Everyone in the Darkness to Light family sends our deepest respects, even those whom haven’t met you, but still affected by your passion to lead us into the adventures of the virtual world.

    We will never forget Sigrid the paladin, the one we always called Kitty.

  14. Posted October 2, 2009 at 8:15 am | Permalink

    Our society has suffered a great loss with such a loved and respected sister of the sword such as her. The Kingdom of Meridies joins in your loss, and our hearts ache for her as well. She will be deeply missed and forever remembered in the Halls of Honor.

  15. Baron Turold
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 8:16 am | Permalink

    I never had the good fortune to meet this wonderful lady, but her friends are legion and tales of her wonderful nature and good heart have reached across the boundaries and touched us all.

    My thoughts and prayers go out to Sven and to Kolfinna’s family and friends.

    Long live Kolfinna!

    Kingdom of Trimaris

  16. Isula Shoshni Romani Natalia
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 8:18 am | Permalink

    Be at peace great lady. Have strength those that are left behind to continue to honor her. Peace, prayers & comfort to all.

  17. Michael Mallory
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 8:39 am | Permalink

    Kitty will live long in my heart as an inspiration of what true chivalry and nobility is. Long Live Kolfinna!

    I received my Duellist this last May Potrero from Kolfinna’s hand, and it is an honor that will stay with me always.

    Take care, and know my thoughts are with you.

  18. Andrixos Seljukroctonis
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 8:42 am | Permalink

    Throughout the nineteen realms is cast a pall,
    In shires and barons’ lands a grievous wail.
    All noble hears break at Kolfinna’s fall.
    Three weeks ago she was so strong and hail.
    Though Fortune’s Wheel did spread our homes by miles
    And kept our joyous meetings’ number few,
    I treasure each encounter’s happy smiles
    And thank the Fates I knew a Peer so true.
    But she was one who ran life as a race.
    With vigor did she seek the newest task
    It was not hers to stick to laggard’s pace
    Sweet kindness was her core, not venal mask.

    We mourn the warrior, cut down in her prime,
    But know she made the best of too-short time.

  19. Vels
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 9:08 am | Permalink


    Go easy, Ciana/Kolfinna/Kitty.

  20. Marcellus
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 9:14 am | Permalink


    I know I have been around very much lately but if there is anything I can do for you, Kitty’s family, and any of your affiliated households, please let me know.

    I will miss her greatly but I know she is now running Vahalla with the same spirit and joy she brought here on Earth.

    Long live Kolfinna!


  21. Posted October 2, 2009 at 10:03 am | Permalink

    I am thankful for this shock, disbelief, and denial that keeps us from fully feeling this awful awful pain. I can’t believe this beautiful vibrant being is gone from us, way way too soon! She was the best SIL and Queen that Sven could ever have given us, and my life has been so blessed by knowing her. I will always love her, and be grateful to Sven for bringing her to our lives. Words beyond this escape me. We will be there for you in any way you need, brother Sven!

  22. Cecilia Medici
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 10:26 am | Permalink

    Kofinna will be dearly missed, her smile and laugh will live on with us in spirit forever.
    Long Live Kolfinna!

  23. Posted October 2, 2009 at 10:47 am | Permalink

    Aww, damn! We never did get to meet in person, did we ‘finna? Still, I have learned more from your facebook comments and emails than I could ever have hoped for.

    Save me a place at Valhalla’s table, Sweet Friend; let’s hope that Ternon was right, and that Calon Duchesses get an automatic pass through the door!

    Hywela, Duchess Calontir, OP

  24. Cynehild Cynesigesdohtor
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 11:20 am | Permalink

    As a female fighter, Kolfinna was an inspiration to me, some one who I aspired to emulate. I am so sad that I never got to meet her in person so I could thank her. The swordmaiden website she helped found was a huge boon to me when I was just starting and a continuing resource as I learn, for this I will be forever grateful. She will reside forever in her chosen paradise, a warrior and an inspiration. I’m sorry this is such a fractured message but even though I never knew her personally her death has really cut me to the quick.

    Cynehild Cynesigesdohtor

  25. Cormac
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 11:52 am | Permalink

    The world has truly lost one of the greatest people I’ve ever had the pleasure to know. I’m grateful I had a chance to know her, and saddened that I’ll not get to know her better.

    Long live Kolfinna!

  26. Valentina Barrows
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 12:06 pm | Permalink

    With confusion and a sense of displacement, she found herself standing in front of a pair of tall, wooden and iron braced doors. Without bidding, and as they had done too many times before, the heavy doors opened slowly, swinging back silently upon their hinges. She looked over her left shoulder at what was behind her and understanding slowly dawned. She slowly turned back to face the now open doors and paused momentarily…her heart heavy with sadness at leaving behind those she loved the most.

    Yet, Queen and Warrior that she was, held her head high and with a strong sure step she entered through the doors, and as she did so, the sound of a thousand benches scraped across the floor, the sea of people who had been feasting noisily at the tables rose to their feet and silence fell like a wave. Suddenly and in unison, tankards slammed on the tables with a loud and echoing thunder that was felt through the very soles of her feet, and the tankards were lifted high in honor. A thunderous roar ensued as a thousand and more voices of heros and warriors, centuries past and present, shouted “Hail and Welcome Sister, Warrior, Queen!” and she was gathered into the neverending crowd with encircling arms as the doors silently swung closed behind her.

    Another warrior is welcomed into the Halls of Valhalla

    I fear no God
    I fear no pain
    As my time has come
    Entering the hall of the slain

    I knew her not, there are those who one does not need to know personally to be aware of their greatness.

    Valentina Barrows
    East Kingdom

  27. Syele
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 4:23 pm | Permalink

    Do not weep for a warrior gone
    For we shall drink again, ere long
    Don’t look for me on hill or ridge
    You’ll see me soon – I guard the bridge

    Odin called me to feast at his hall
    His valkyries came though I gave it my all
    A warrior born I gave my best fight
    Too soon I went to the land of night

    Twice I wore roses of gold and white
    I fought for my King and he called me a Knight
    From my breast sprang forth life’s blood of the moon
    Hear my wound song sound – I was taken too soon

    Do not weep for a warrior gone
    For we shall drink again, ere long
    Don’t look for me on hill or ridge
    You’ll see me soon – I guard the bridge

    Ever did I live with fire and pride
    Chivalry and honor at my dear Svenn’s side
    Remember well my laugh, recall my joyous smile
    For we are only parted for a little while

    I call on you now to live life for me
    To sing out my name to the winds o’er the sea
    I will stand fast here until the day
    When I’ll walk at your side as you come my way

    Do not weep for a warrior gone
    For we shall drink again, ere long
    Don’t look for me on hill or ridge
    You’ll see me soon – I guard the bridge

  28. Posted October 2, 2009 at 4:23 pm | Permalink

    An an inspirational person and cornerstone of the SCA has fallen.

    I wish her well on her next journey

  29. Cormac
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 8:36 pm | Permalink

    Long Live Kolfinna

  30. Alys Chauntrey
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 9:01 pm | Permalink

    Never have I met someone who loved not only the dream, but the people behind the dream as much as Kolfinna.

    Never would you feel out of place, or unsure of your welcome, if Kolfinna was around.

    Never would you fail to become part of the plot (or run over by it completely) when Kolfinna was part of the planning.

    Never will I meet another queen whom I would willingly follow to Valhalla and beyond. I remain your word slave unto eternity, great lady.

    Long Live Kolfinna!

    Alys Chauntrey

  31. Jamal
    Posted October 3, 2009 at 11:40 am | Permalink

    AAAAAAAAAAAAAAgh (a mighty scream)

    I yell to warn those “In the Beyond” that a warrior is on her way.

    I am more for knowing Kolfinna.
    I am less because she is gone.

    I will try to be the shiny knight she asked all of her brother knights to be.

    Long Live Kolfinna!


  32. Fred Drager (Thorfin the Giant)
    Posted October 3, 2009 at 12:13 pm | Permalink

    I am sorry to heir the lost of a member of my exstended family. my preys or there for you and your family.

    Fred Drager (thorfin the Giant)

  33. Posted October 4, 2009 at 5:22 pm | Permalink

    My heart goes out to Sven, and my thoughts with all those who knew Kolfinna best.

    I did not have the honor of knowing her personally, but she remains an inspiration to me and a shining example of what a woman in the SCA can accomplish, as both an artist and fighter.

    Rest well, Sir Kolfinna. Rest well.

  34. Artos
    Posted October 5, 2009 at 1:20 pm | Permalink

    When asked about her let it be said, she is at a tournament elsewhere.

  35. brandy
    Posted October 5, 2009 at 5:32 pm | Permalink

    I am so terribly sorry! I cannot begin to imagine losing my partner in life!

    “SHE walks in beauty, like the night
    Of cloudless climes and starry skies,
    And all that’s best of dark and bright
    Meets in her aspect and her eyes;
    Thus mellow’d to that tender light 5
    Which Heaven to gaudy day denies.

    One shade the more, one ray the less,
    Had half impair’d the nameless grace
    Which waves in every raven tress
    Or softly lightens o’er her face, 10
    Where thoughts serenely sweet express
    How pure, how dear their dwelling-place.

    And on that cheek and o’er that brow
    So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,
    The smiles that win, the tints that glow, 15
    But tell of days in goodness spent,—
    A mind at peace with all below,
    A heart whose love is innocent.”

  36. aidan
    Posted October 6, 2009 at 10:27 am | Permalink

    she is the best sister a guy could ever ask for.


  37. Christel~Leake
    Posted October 6, 2009 at 10:45 am | Permalink

    A smile brighter than the sun.
    A laugh that was contagious.
    A sword hand which compared to none.
    At times she was outrageous.

    A warrior always at the backs,
    Of those she would defend.
    She kept her word and all her pacts.
    Her journey reached its end.

    Our friend has passed on from this realm,
    To the mead hall in the sky.
    No more will she need her helm,
    So raise your Apple Ma Pie!

  38. Varju
    Posted October 7, 2009 at 5:44 pm | Permalink

    Though I never knew this fine lady, our society is diminished by her loss.
    My very deepest sympathies from out here in the East.
    – Varju of O’Choda

  39. Posted October 7, 2009 at 6:23 pm | Permalink

    Kolfinna will forever remain one of my dearest, truest SCA friends. That’s not to say we hung out every event or shared a household or anything. We didn’t. But she always went out of her way to make me feel loved and befriended, as I suspect she did for so many… a magical talent she had and shared with anyone willing to open their hearts to her.

    I met her on nearly my first day playing SCA and we became fast friends. Camping together, fighting together, campaigning together… This was back when she was still “Cianna” and I was 10 years older than her and not nearly as cool as she was. But she was generous with her popularity and readily shared her friends and energy and “life”. I always felt a part of something wonderful when I was with her. Then we each found boyfriends and polar-opposite personas (lol) and such, and grew apart, but no matter how busy she was, or how many thrones she sat, she never ran out of time for me. Or anyone else I imagine. She was just one of those amazing kind of people you meet once in a lifetime…

    Everyone that was lucky enough to have Kitty cross their path like a black cat on Friday the 13th are the luckiest people in the world. Truly blessed. I am a better person for having known her. Some of the ways I conduct myself I picked up by emulating her style, her vivacity and her “devil may care” attitude. She was a “don’t sweat the small stuff” girl. She was a “laugh at the lame stuff” girl. She was a “love hard, play hard” girl. If I live all my life with half of her “je ne sais quoi”, I will consider it a complete success.

    My biggest regret is that I never took the opportunity to tell her how much I loved her. How much she meant to me. How much I learned from her. Which seriously pisses me off. WHY do we do that? Why do I have such strong feelings about my friends, and wait to tell them? What was I waiting for?

    If nothing else, Kitty’s death will teach me to “come clean”. To tell the people I love how I feel. Sooner rather than later.

    Meow, Kitty.

    “The candles will burn out long before, her legend ever will.”

  40. Ruan
    Posted October 7, 2009 at 10:46 pm | Permalink

    I was awarded my AoA by Kolfinna. I will always remember that day for I was truly touched by her grace and kindness. She will be truly missed.

    Watch over us until we meet again dear Queen.

    Long Live Kolfinna!

  41. Hue d' Ventadorn
    Posted October 8, 2009 at 1:54 pm | Permalink

    When I hear “Candle in the Wind” I will think of her now and forever….

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