From Sven

The official word:


Lorissa (who had permission to post to all the lists she is on) phrased it much better than I did:


Please cross post:

It is with deep regret and much sorrow that after getting permission from Sven, I pass on that Duchess Kolfinna will loose her brave fight with H1N1 today, October 1st, 2009. We all feel a great loss but Kolfinna’s family asks that her friends refrain from coming up to the hospital. There will be a memorial at Great Western War and there will be more information on that and final arrangements posted on the website later


Yes, it is true.  Kolfinna will be removed from life support this afternoon.  The family asks that people do NOT come out.  There will be something at GWW but we do not have details yet.  More information will follow.


My input:

has been removed.  Sorry for those who caught it.



  1. Ludwig/Andrew
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:14 pm | Permalink

    OMFG noooooooooooooooo. :*****(


  2. Gabrielle Underwood
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:16 pm | Permalink

    Words are utterly inadequate. My thoughts are with you both.

    Adrielle / Gabrielle

  3. Rufus
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:20 pm | Permalink

    No need to apologize Auggie, your words were measured and appropriate.
    You have done a great service in keeping everyone informed, helping to keep hope alive in the darkest of times. Prayers and peace to family and friends.
    - Rufus

  4. Gregor
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:21 pm | Permalink

    We are saddened by this news. Sven, please know that one hearts and prayers are with you and family. Should you need anyth
    ing, please do not hesitate to let us know.

    Gregor & Petronel

  5. Monika/Karina
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:23 pm | Permalink

    I am speechless. I am so sorry to hear this news.

    My heart goes out to Sven and Kitty’s friends and Family.
    I am so so sorry.

  6. Misy Edmundson
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:28 pm | Permalink


    You, best of all of us, know how magical Kitty is. She will leave a hole too deep and wide to measure. Our thoughts and prayers to you and the rest of her family in this time of overwhelming grief.

    Heartflet love from An Tir,

    Rauokinn/ Misty

  7. TRM EikBrandr and Runa
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:29 pm | Permalink

    Our hearts go out to all family and friends of this great Lady. The Knowne World shall feel her loss.

  8. Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:31 pm | Permalink

    The heavens have gained a shining star, and in her passing the world is a little less bright.

    Though she has departed, may her deeds, her stories, and her laughter remain here with us, for so long as one among us remembers her, she lives forever.

    Farewell Your Grace. We will not forget.

    In service to chirurgy, the kingdom, the Crown, and you,

    THLord Conal Mac Nachtan
    Protegé to Companion Inguz sigrun Mikksdottir

  9. Jamal and Eowyn
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:31 pm | Permalink

    Ther are no words just tears.

  10. Patraic O'Ceallaigh
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:33 pm | Permalink

    Words escape me as a part of our hearts just left.

    May the Lord bless and keep her close. May he give you Sven strength in this dark time.

  11. Nora/Isula Shoshni Romani Natalia
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:38 pm | Permalink

    I didn’t know either of you personally, but your presence has touched the lives of many that I do. My thoughts & prayers with you & your families at this time.

  12. Kiena
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:39 pm | Permalink

    Please know my thoughts and prayers are being sent across this great knowne world and country of ours. Her Grace was a wonderful and vibrant and fun lady.

  13. Thomas and Marina
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:41 pm | Permalink

    There are no words that we can utter to express our grief. Let our tears show our feelings and sympathy for family and friends. Marina and Thomas

  14. Beth aka Lady elizabeth
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:42 pm | Permalink

    I can only offer my love and this

    Death you are too familiar.
    you walk too often accross my path.
    Your jealous nature frightens me.
    Your trail leads me down sorrowful paths.
    Why are you so often present?
    Why do you tread the path so heavy
    laden with broken hearts & lives?
    Why not let life play out?
    Why come so often into my life?
    You wear out your welcome
    and like unwelcome family,
    I cannot tell you to leave.
    Come when you are bidden,
    not when life is full.
    Come when you are needed,
    not when death is cruel.
    Come when life is spent,
    when death is love
    When death is peace.
    Come softly

    Beth Havens
    aka Lady Elzabeth Margaret Cleves

  15. Teffan
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:45 pm | Permalink

    She will be greatly missed. Apparently Valhalla needs her there more than here, but our hearts still ache.

  16. kitta
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:46 pm | Permalink

    I feel so lucky to have even barely known Kitty this past year and a half. My thoughts go out to all her family and everyone else who loves her in this difficult, terrible time.

  17. Fiona/Veronique De La Rose
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:46 pm | Permalink

    My thoughts and prayers are with sven and the families. She will always remain in our hearts.

  18. Rekon
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:49 pm | Permalink

    A kind and gentle soul cannot always count on a warrior’s strength to win the day… may each memory, deed, word, and thought keep her close to all who love her. It seems wrong that she must pass from us so soon, but if she must, may it be gently and lightly that she goes.

  19. Heather / Raffaella
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:49 pm | Permalink

    This is just unthinkable. There are no words.

    My thoughts and prayers go out to all who are stunned and hurt by this overwhelming loss

  20. Sherief
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:52 pm | Permalink

    Oh my god, Kurt I am so so sorry. I have been thinking about Kitty all the time, and I am just devastated by this.

    I’m no where near you but if there is anything you ever need, heck just someone to talk to, do not hesitate to ask.

    I will forever remember her bright shining smile, huge hugs and hearty laugh, that always made my day. And the barrage of titty twisters. I will never forget her.

  21. Puchiko & Riovantes
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:57 pm | Permalink

    We are extremely saddened to hear this news. When we first heard we didn’t want to believe it to be true. We are very sorry for your loss and Kitty will be missed greatly. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

  22. Posted October 1, 2009 at 12:57 pm | Permalink


    Damn damn DAMN damn.

    To her family, all courtesy and honour – and comfort.

    And to Kolfinna herself, gentle passing. For you, there shall be a returning.

    The skies here in Seattle have not a tenth of what falls from my eyes right now.

    Lord Padraig o Connell, Father to Mhari, Protege to Damn Selene Colfox, and very saddened former Caidian.

    Madrone, An Tir

  23. Sorcha
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 1:03 pm | Permalink

    Darkness and sadness fills my heart. My family and I send our prayers for Kitty and Sven, their family and loved ones in this darkest of times.

    She was such a blessing to all who had the chance to know her. I cannot express the impact she had on my life and the loss I will feel.

  24. Cassandra
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 1:06 pm | Permalink

    To Sven, Blaine, Auggie, Tayisia, and all others close to Kitty, my deepest empathies on this process and the path being walked. Kitty is a light on this earth that is rare and refreshing, and a world of people that were touched by her walk this same path with love for her, for you and for yours. Stay strong. Stay together.

    Many well wishes.

  25. Jen (guin)
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 1:07 pm | Permalink

    Sven, I am so so sorry, and so sad. Words cannot say enough. Kevin and I are thinking of you and sending our love across the country.

  26. Andre
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 1:08 pm | Permalink

    This is a sad day. Now my prayers should be devoted to her soul.

    My heart goes to Kitty’s family. I cannot image what it would be like to watch your only child die.

    Sorry Sven. I can’t imagine what it’s like to watch your mate die.

  27. Artie
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 2:43 pm | Permalink

    Kytte and I send our condolences to you and Kitty’s family. She will always be remembered, and will live on in the spirit of the Society.

  28. Lynnette
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 2:57 pm | Permalink

    There are no words … there are only tears …

    Our hearts go out to Sven and Kitty’s family and friends and to all of us.

    If there is anything we can do to help, please let us know.

    -=-Lynnette & Timotheus

  29. Ruslan
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 2:57 pm | Permalink

    I’m saddened by the news. I’ve only known Kolfinna for a short time but she will be missed. My thoughts go out to Sven and her family.

  30. Darius & Elana
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 2:57 pm | Permalink

    We are simply without words.

    Bright Blessings to all who cared for her, and especially Sven and her family, during this difficult transition. Please know our hearts are with you.

    Darius & Elana

  31. Caitlin
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 2:58 pm | Permalink

    There are no words to describe how amazing she will always be. It’s simply an honor to have known her.

  32. Posted October 1, 2009 at 3:57 pm | Permalink

    NononoNONO! This can’t be happening!

  33. Kian
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 4:03 pm | Permalink

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.


  34. Duke Seth and Countess Gwen, Meridies
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 4:06 pm | Permalink


    There are no words we can say that can truly express our sorrow.

    She was a joy and a light in this world, fearless, full of laughter, and a friend we treasured.

    There will never be another, and her memory will live on in a special place in our hearts, reserved for the best and brightest things in life.

    Seth and Gwen

  35. Aliskye
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 4:08 pm | Permalink

    My deepest sympathies to Swen and Kitty’s family. Words can not measure the grief felt by all of us who were honored to know her.

  36. Alexandria MacKendry
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 4:08 pm | Permalink

    I have known Kitty for about 10 years and it is very hard for me to hear this sad news. I will always remember her as a shining star willing to help anyone. She will be in my thoughts and prayers!

    Lady Alexandria Ariel MacKendry

  37. Ciaran MacDarragh
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 4:12 pm | Permalink

    I didn’t know Kitty very well, but she has always struck me as the best kind of person the SCA attracts and nurtures. I am very sad over this loss.

  38. Lothar
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 4:12 pm | Permalink

    Words have no meaning in a time such as this.
    Thoughts are but a shadow of reality.
    Feelings are all that count.
    Kolfinna was and always will be a shining star in both mundane life and in the Game we all play. I count myself lucky to have known Her and faced Her across Our Sacred Place; The Battlefield. I never came close to defeating Her. But I always left having learned something new.
    Kitty will always be loved and missed in Caid as well as the rest of the Knowne Worlde.

    “Lo, there do I see my father.
    Lo, there do I see my mother.
    Lo, there do I see my sisters and my brothers.
    Lo, there do I see the line of my family back to the beginning.
    Lo, they do call to me
    They bid me take my place among them
    In the Halls of Valhalla,
    Where the Brave may live forever.”

    Siobhan ingwen ui Canaidhi
    Lothar von Schwartzschildt
    Horsemen of Judgment Keep
    “Dues Carve!!!”

  39. Lorccan
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 4:13 pm | Permalink

    There will be no forgetting her – she made such a mark on the world of those who knew her. Maybe that means that the tears will come, at surprising moments, for years to come; but I am sure it also means that we’ll be laughing and telling tales of our Kitty for longer still.

    Love y’all!

  40. Marcellus
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 4:25 pm | Permalink

    I am at a loss for words, Kolfinna is a once in lifetime person.

    She touched all of us, her bright lively spirit will be missed, heaven has gained a shining jewel.

    Sven, Malachi, Tayisia, and close friends and family my coldolences,my heart aches for you all.


  41. Berengere
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 4:26 pm | Permalink

    Caid-in-Carolingia is mourning tonight. We are so very, very sorry. There are no words. But we send our love.

    Berengere, Julian and Aurora

  42. Tomyris
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 4:38 pm | Permalink

    Bright blessings for the journey – both yours and hers.

  43. Theiadora Groves, Svein Ulfsson
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 4:41 pm | Permalink

    We are shocked and saddened by the news. Our prayers are with you, and your families both private and SCA.

    There is a great hole in the universe now.

    Theiadora & Sveinn

  44. Lara Demain
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 5:00 pm | Permalink

    As everyone else has said, there are no words to really express how deeply sorry and saddened we are by the passing of such an amazing warrior and person. We of Valley Azure (Maui) cast our hopes, thoughts and prayers to a strong easterly wind, know that we are thinking of you.
    Aloha nui loa Sven and family

    A hui hou Kitty! (till we meet again)

    Aloha from Edward, Kyrstyan and all of Valley Azure

  45. Heidi
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 5:03 pm | Permalink

    Prayers and thoughts from a far away member. I’m so very sorry.

  46. Luke Sollitt (Luke of Caerleon)
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 5:06 pm | Permalink

    Words escape me. Feelings don’t. Shock, dismay and sadness are my companions now, as I know they are Sven’s, and Kitty’s friends and family. There is indeed a hole in the universe now.


  47. Juliana
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 5:11 pm | Permalink

    Our hearts grieve with yours, for the loss of such a vibrant and amazing woman, gone from us too soon.

  48. Arganteilin
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 5:19 pm | Permalink

    Kitty will always be the brightest star in the sky.

    My deepest condolences to you and Kitty’s parents, my heart is just broken.

    I hold dear to me her smile and laughter and positive outlook on life.

    Blessed Be to you.

  49. Ciorstan
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 5:22 pm | Permalink

    I had started praying about eight days ago and said, please, God, we’re not done loving her yet. I didn’t say anything here, because I felt that my words would be insufficient in the face of the grief and terror Sven and her family and intimate friends faced.

    The amount of grief at her passing is a measure of the greatness of an individual. Kolfinna truly is one of our best and brightest.

    The world is going to be a much dimmer place without her.

  50. Anna Grace
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 5:35 pm | Permalink

    Sven, I am so very, very sorry… I wish I knew what else to say…

  51. Brewhaha (Chris)
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 5:44 pm | Permalink

    Every time I talked to Kitty, things always seemed to get more cheerful. I enjoyed the short time that I knew her for and for how little that was I am glad to say that it was an honor.

  52. Rudolf Fekter, Amicia Sennet de Bruges
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 5:52 pm | Permalink

    Dear Sven;

    We are so sorry and so shocked. We will miss Kolfinna. Our hearts go out to you and Kitty’s family.

    With Love and Sympathy,
    Rudolf and Amicia

  53. Derian le Breton
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 6:55 pm | Permalink

    I am deeply saddened and shocked. I only met Kolfinna once, but her warmth and friendliness made a deep impression.

    There are no words, only sadness. My deepest condolences.


  54. Mercy the potter
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 7:09 pm | Permalink

    I’m so sorry, Sven. No words can express….

    She will be missed, but never forgotten.


  55. William Hethfelde
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 7:09 pm | Permalink

    The Halls of Valhalla thunder with there greeting. We weep for the time that we must wait till we meet again.

    Until that day Kolfinna when you again knock me senseless and smile sweetly and tell me what I did wrong.

    You exemplified what a Knight should be my lady.

  56. Madeleina
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 7:10 pm | Permalink

    With love from all of the pieces of our broken hearts.

    Felix and Madeleina

  57. dame varia
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 7:27 pm | Permalink

    we met briefly at pennsic and my world was better having known her…

    may her memory be for a blessing

    peace to both sven and her family

    dame varia

  58. Sarah Elizabeth
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 9:12 pm | Permalink

    Words are incomplete and in accurete, as this Queen, in her time, has let a very precious hole in our lives. Revine battle will never be the same without you dear Duchess, but your radiance, kindness, caring and love will never dim. Thank you for touching our lives in ways that you don’t even know. Lord please put your arms around her and her family during this time, reminding them of all the brightness that she brought each day! Thank you for choosing to touch our lives and make us better people by knowing her…………. go in peace, dear one, peace

  59. John ap Gwyndaf
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 9:20 pm | Permalink

    Long live Kolfinna.

    And long live the lessons she taught us through her example.

    The moment she set foot on that hallowed field, the hosts of Valhalla doubled in prowess, wisdom and grace.
    Sven, Kolfinna’s household, and family: you have but to ask and if it is in my power, it shall be done.


  60. Viviane
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 10:01 pm | Permalink

    I count myself at a great loss for never having had the opportunity to meet such a shining star, but I do not doubt that her inspiration has left this world a better place.

    Love and prayers from Northshield.

  61. Andromeda
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 10:07 pm | Permalink

    Kolfinna…the most beautiful woman in SCA…Her laughter, her smile, her brilliant eyes and calming voice were the very definition of life. Always sincere and humble, not even a stranger could help but fall in love with the unique person she was… A Knight, a Duchess, a Queen, not only in rank but in her very soul…a bright light I admired that will always be my own North Star….

    With most tender feelings and the respect no words can describe, you are and will always be loved and thought of, as I among so many, feel blessed for having known you…

    Until the time after, when we meet again sweet Kitty…my Queen and brilliant North Star!

    Andromeda of Greece

  62. Michael MacGarry and Siobhan
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 10:22 pm | Permalink

    Sven, Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Kitty will be remembered in our prayers,as will her family and friends. May God bless you,always. Michael MacGarry and Siobhan

  63. Saeunn Egilsdottir
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 10:29 pm | Permalink

    I am saddened by the emptiness left by her passing.

    I will be celebrating her with our friends this weekend and for the rest of my days.

  64. Sackett and Justina
    Posted October 1, 2009 at 10:34 pm | Permalink

    Sven we are very sorry to hear this, we will miss Kitty greatly, our thoughts are with you and she is in our memories and hearts.

  65. Saito Takauji
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 8:26 am | Permalink

    I knew her Grace for about one hour at Lillies War, and I am heartbroken at the loss. My heart goes out, broken as it is, to her family in these dark times.

  66. Maridonna Dolce da Perugia
    Posted October 2, 2009 at 3:44 pm | Permalink

    Although I did not personally know Kolfinna, her presence at events always brightened my day. She will be missed.

  67. Posted October 2, 2009 at 8:36 pm | Permalink

    We raise our Drinking Horn and Hail you upon your departure.

    ~Sven, me deepest condolences go to you, from all of us with the Kith of Naglfar,


  68. Posted October 5, 2009 at 6:06 pm | Permalink

    I have known Kitty since she was–what? Fifteen? Sixteen? Ever since she first showed up. She ran in my circle of CAIDan friends, back when she couldn’t wait to turn 18 so she could start fighting, when she swore to be the first female knight from CAID. She was my friend, and I loved her spirit and her smile and her joi de vivre. I cannot say how greatly I will miss her. Death has been fairly constant in my life this year, and it sucks, but this just blows my mind. Sven, I am so sorry for your loss. It is all of ours.

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